8 Reasons Why Married Couples Should Have Separate Bedrooms
By PTLeena, published Jun 14, 2007
Girls night out? Not anymore. Guys nights? Fughettaboutit! Once a couple enters the realm of marriage, independence and freedom quickly dwindle. Some people feel suffocated in their marriages due to responsibilities towards their spouse, children, careers, etc. There is a solution, however, that keeps the couple united and true to their vows but also gives them the sense of liberty that they desire. The solution? Separate bedrooms! I know couples who do this and when I first heard about it, I thought it was strange. But it makes perfect sense! Here are some reasons why.
1. No Arguments Over Decorating
She likes girly colors and patterns. He likes manly ones. Compromising on the living room and kitchen was bad enough, why bring more bitterness into the bedroom? Instead, let each person have their own bedroom and they can decorate it however they want. If she wants a pink floral comforter, no problem! He can have his black sheets and Metallica posters on the wall. Each person gets to keep their identity, which makes a bedroom feel more comfortable and makes it easier to kick back and relax.
2. No Lack of Sleep Due to Snoring
Many people have partners who snore heavily when they sleep. This causes them to stay awake all night and in some cases, fling their arm over and slap their spouse every few minutes. With separate bedrooms, each person can get a better night's sleep and won't have to worry about being kept awake by their partners snoring, talking, sleepwalking or any other bedtime habits. This makes for better rested partners, which makes for better and happier marriages!
3. It's Easier When the Babies Come
Any new parent can tell you that once they have children, they get less sleep than they have ever gotten in their lives. Some couples alternate getting up at night to care for their newborns, where other couples place the responsibility solely on the mother. Keeping the baby's crib in one parent's room is a great solution to getting more sleep and still seeing that the baby is taken care of. If the baby sleeps in the mother's room, she won't wake up daddy every hour when she gets in and out of bed to care for the baby. If the parents take turns with the baby, then while one parent is in the room singing "Rock-a-Bye Baby", the other parent can go to the other bedroom and get some rest (it's okay to share bedrooms in cases like this).
4. Nobody Sleeps on the Couch After a Fight
Some say you should never go to bed angry with your spouse. However, some people do, and the person in the dog house (usually the man) ends up spending the night sleeping on the couch. With separate bedrooms, nobody has to sleep on the couch, which means nobody has to wake up with a more cranky spouse due to an uncomfortable night's rest. After an argument, the last thing you want is a grumpy partner!
5. More Closet Space
Some master bedrooms come with "his" and "hers" closets, but many don't. Sharing closet space is generally a 90/10 rule: the woman gets 90% of the space and the man gets the other 10%, which generally works out because men don't have as many shoes or clothes as women. Nonetheless, having your own closet means each person gets 100% of the space. They can put additional storage items or household goods in there, or 100 pairs of shoes, whatever they choose. Again, it allows for a sense of self and requires less figuring out how to divide the closet assets.
6. Sex Becomes More Special
Having separate bedrooms doesn't mean you can't have sleepovers; and you should! Especially after sex, it is nice to just lay in bed with your partner and spend the night. In fact, with separate bedrooms, sex might become even more of a luxury because it is one of the rare occasions where the couple gets to share their space with one another. They may spend their days apart in their own special quarters, but when the lights go down, they can decide who's room they want to spice things up in. This can also lead to more interesting sex, by surprising your partner with something special in your bedroom, or having sex in a different bed every time, without the same old surroundings, smells and decorations.
7. Differing Pre-Bedtime Habits
Some people like to watch television before they go to bed. Others enjoy reading and some prefer to just hit the pillow and then hit the lights. If one partner likes to watch television and the other likes to read, it can be difficult and often times, one of the partners ends up going into the living room to do whatever it is they prefer to do before bedtime. With separate bedrooms, this is no longer a concern. The bookworm can read without being distracted by the television and the person watching t.v. doesn't have to worry about keeping the sound down or turning it off by a certain time.
8. No Cover Hogs
I sleep in my pajamas, usually with all of my blankets and covers on. Some people sleep with just a sheet, others sleep naked and still others like to sleep half naked with some blankets. Because people have different preferences about sleeping, separate bedrooms means not having to hog the covers, freeze to death overnight due to a high spinning fan, or wake up sweating because your partner insisted on having eleven blankets on the bed.
When marriage enters a person's life, that person "becomes one" with their spouse. This doesn't mean that they can't have their own space and maintain their own identity. Having separate bedrooms as a couple is a great way to uphold each person's individuality and still leave room for intimacy and togetherness. Next time you have a sleepless night due to your snoring spouse, are laying in bed trying to sleep while your partner blasts the television, or stare at the periwinkle colored walls in your bedroom with resentment, think about how having your own bedroom could solve those problems. Yes, a married couple is essentially two persons in one but that doesn't mean you can't have two bedrooms, each with one owner. Now, on to the separate bathrooms idea...
From: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/270260/8_reasons_why_married_couples_should.html?page=3&cat=41
Girls night out? Not anymore. Guys nights? Fughettaboutit! Once a couple enters the realm of marriage, independence and freedom quickly dwindle. Some people feel suffocated in their marriages due to responsibilities towards their spouse, children, careers, etc. There is a solution, however, that keeps the couple united and true to their vows but also gives them the sense of liberty that they desire. The solution? Separate bedrooms! I know couples who do this and when I first heard about it, I thought it was strange. But it makes perfect sense! Here are some reasons why.
1. No Arguments Over Decorating
She likes girly colors and patterns. He likes manly ones. Compromising on the living room and kitchen was bad enough, why bring more bitterness into the bedroom? Instead, let each person have their own bedroom and they can decorate it however they want. If she wants a pink floral comforter, no problem! He can have his black sheets and Metallica posters on the wall. Each person gets to keep their identity, which makes a bedroom feel more comfortable and makes it easier to kick back and relax.
2. No Lack of Sleep Due to Snoring
Many people have partners who snore heavily when they sleep. This causes them to stay awake all night and in some cases, fling their arm over and slap their spouse every few minutes. With separate bedrooms, each person can get a better night's sleep and won't have to worry about being kept awake by their partners snoring, talking, sleepwalking or any other bedtime habits. This makes for better rested partners, which makes for better and happier marriages!
3. It's Easier When the Babies Come
Any new parent can tell you that once they have children, they get less sleep than they have ever gotten in their lives. Some couples alternate getting up at night to care for their newborns, where other couples place the responsibility solely on the mother. Keeping the baby's crib in one parent's room is a great solution to getting more sleep and still seeing that the baby is taken care of. If the baby sleeps in the mother's room, she won't wake up daddy every hour when she gets in and out of bed to care for the baby. If the parents take turns with the baby, then while one parent is in the room singing "Rock-a-Bye Baby", the other parent can go to the other bedroom and get some rest (it's okay to share bedrooms in cases like this).
4. Nobody Sleeps on the Couch After a Fight
Some say you should never go to bed angry with your spouse. However, some people do, and the person in the dog house (usually the man) ends up spending the night sleeping on the couch. With separate bedrooms, nobody has to sleep on the couch, which means nobody has to wake up with a more cranky spouse due to an uncomfortable night's rest. After an argument, the last thing you want is a grumpy partner!
5. More Closet Space
Some master bedrooms come with "his" and "hers" closets, but many don't. Sharing closet space is generally a 90/10 rule: the woman gets 90% of the space and the man gets the other 10%, which generally works out because men don't have as many shoes or clothes as women. Nonetheless, having your own closet means each person gets 100% of the space. They can put additional storage items or household goods in there, or 100 pairs of shoes, whatever they choose. Again, it allows for a sense of self and requires less figuring out how to divide the closet assets.
6. Sex Becomes More Special
Having separate bedrooms doesn't mean you can't have sleepovers; and you should! Especially after sex, it is nice to just lay in bed with your partner and spend the night. In fact, with separate bedrooms, sex might become even more of a luxury because it is one of the rare occasions where the couple gets to share their space with one another. They may spend their days apart in their own special quarters, but when the lights go down, they can decide who's room they want to spice things up in. This can also lead to more interesting sex, by surprising your partner with something special in your bedroom, or having sex in a different bed every time, without the same old surroundings, smells and decorations.
7. Differing Pre-Bedtime Habits
Some people like to watch television before they go to bed. Others enjoy reading and some prefer to just hit the pillow and then hit the lights. If one partner likes to watch television and the other likes to read, it can be difficult and often times, one of the partners ends up going into the living room to do whatever it is they prefer to do before bedtime. With separate bedrooms, this is no longer a concern. The bookworm can read without being distracted by the television and the person watching t.v. doesn't have to worry about keeping the sound down or turning it off by a certain time.
8. No Cover Hogs
I sleep in my pajamas, usually with all of my blankets and covers on. Some people sleep with just a sheet, others sleep naked and still others like to sleep half naked with some blankets. Because people have different preferences about sleeping, separate bedrooms means not having to hog the covers, freeze to death overnight due to a high spinning fan, or wake up sweating because your partner insisted on having eleven blankets on the bed.
When marriage enters a person's life, that person "becomes one" with their spouse. This doesn't mean that they can't have their own space and maintain their own identity. Having separate bedrooms as a couple is a great way to uphold each person's individuality and still leave room for intimacy and togetherness. Next time you have a sleepless night due to your snoring spouse, are laying in bed trying to sleep while your partner blasts the television, or stare at the periwinkle colored walls in your bedroom with resentment, think about how having your own bedroom could solve those problems. Yes, a married couple is essentially two persons in one but that doesn't mean you can't have two bedrooms, each with one owner. Now, on to the separate bathrooms idea...
From: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/270260/8_reasons_why_married_couples_should.html?page=3&cat=41
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